We try to have a 'date' night although at the moment it is about once a month. It's the sort of super dismissive "all women are the same" attitude that I learned in church and left to get away from. I was an ordinary doctor until I found Medscape. I married a NOMO after a lengthy temple marriage and divorce. She will want her kids blessed, baptized, taking temple trips to baptize for the dead, hold the priesthood, a bishop will ask you sons and daughters if they masterbate and punish them if they do, etc.
And her husband now is dead and she is left to wonder about their future. Marriage is serious business and we are in it together despite our spouses shortcomings. Pay for the first few dates. No hatred, bigotry, assholery, misogyny, misandry, transphobia, homophobia, racism or otherwise disrespectful commentary. Unfortunately, I can't answer the questions about marrying him etc. I learned to read by reading the Book of Mormon. Consider a mix of activities that are inexpensive, and allow you to talk and learn about one another. Know that you are playing a game aka dating mormon girls that has low odds of success. I'm pretty disturbed by the level of dismissiveness seen in many of the comments here.
Before I proposed, I actually broke up with my partner for a month в mostly due to family pressure. Now Knowing your husband is surrounded by good looking women, makes you pray for them even harder. If you can genuinely deconvert her then cool. I got the news that my mother suddenly died when I was with him. The important thing is whether or not your spouse will support you in your endevours to live your religion. Your husbands love you, and love that you are able to do what they cannot. Otherwise you risk having an awkward mix between dating and hanging out, which can be uncomfortable for those involved.
Let her go right now then. I am dating a wonderful man, amazing. We just celebrated our 11th wedding anniversary We have 5 children and like so many I feel alone most days. I'm not complaining about the sex, but sometimes it prevents me from getting to know him better when we don't share any other bonding activities or get a chance to really talk.